The headlines are filled with stories of celebrity couples who are splitting up because one (or both) had affairs. You might look around you at your male friends, family members or co-workers who are so focused in on their careers, hobbies or other interests that they pretty much take their wives for granted. Their marriages undoubtedly show the signs of neglect.
When you observe the marriages of those around you, it may be dis-heartening. You might feel like you are one of the few men out there who still loves his wife and wants to do whatever he can to create a healthy, passionate and connected relationship.
You may also want to make sure that you do your part to keep the relationship Tonality and Micro Movements trust strong between you and your spouse.
The good news is this: You are not alone. There are men (and women) out there who do still love their partner and who care deeply about their marriage.
The other good news is that you CAN bolster trust and sustain the closeness and love you share with your wife. This can actually prevent infidelity.
Here are 3 ways to do just that…
#1: Make sure that your woman knows she is a priority to you.
Don’t assume that your wife knows how important she is to you. Too many men take it for granted that, after a period of time, they don’t need to express their love and appreciation for their partner as often as they used to.
This isn’t about your woman being needy or insecure. What it IS about is you continuing to let her know how much you adore her. Find ways to regularly convey the message that she is a priority to you.
Does this mean that you have to drop everything, ignore your career aspirations or your other interests in order to keep your marriage strong and alive?
Of course it does not.
You can actually make room in your mind, and your life, for the possibility of having multiple priorities.
Letting your woman know that she is priority to you can mean something as simple as calling her to let her know you’ll be late from work that night. It may also mean that you tell her how beautiful she looks, even when she’s wearing normal, everyday clothing.
#2: Keep growing…together
There’s nothing worse for a relationship than stagnation. When you and your wife stop growing and learning– both as individuals and as a couple– that’s when troubles can easily arise.
Give yourself permission and an invitation to grow beyond where you are right now. This might mean that you face some of those habits you have that mostly cause inner turmoil and struggle in your life. Have the courage to face those tendencies that limit you and try out some new ways of being.
The same goes for your marriage. Without judgment or criticism, identify those relationship habits that have developed over the years and learn some new strategies that can help you and your wife act and respond differently to one another.
Be supportive and appreciative of your spouse’s growth strides too. Change can be an exciting, connecting and passion-inducing addition to a marriage.
#3: Stay open…to yourself and to your woman
If you do feel triggered, upset or somehow distant from your spouse, make the deliberate choice to open up to yourself and to your woman.
Take the time to regularly go within and become clear about what is bothering you or how you are feeling in general.
Make it your intention to be as open to your spouse as you can be as much of the time as possible. Does this mean that you’ll always be open to her?
What is does mean is when you recognize that you’re shutting down, you figure out what’s going on inside of you and between you and your woman and then you go to her with an invitation to re-connect.